Saturday, 23 March 2013

Healing with feeling words.

lo·qua·cious   - talkative, chatty,

I remember the first time someone used the word loquacious to describe me, it felt like a nasty judgement, an unqualified diagnosis of mental illness, maybe the look of disaproval had something to do with it.  It means 'talks a lot', and plenty of people have pointed their finger at me for talking too much. I admit it, I was uncontrollable, some people even fell asleep while I was talking to them.  I was uncomfortable with silence, and I tried to fill it.

There is a whole industry based on Talking the pain away,  there's even scientific studies to prove it actually works.  When I couldn't talk I wrote, and when I didn't write, I put up a literal smoke screen around me, with whatever I could, whenever I could. When I was with my dear ex, who encouraged everyone to talk out their problems, I stopped writing.  At first I thought it was because I was happy and had nothing to complain about. I realise now, that I was hiding the truth.

So many of my clients have had problems with talking - I always consider it a breakthrough when they start discussing the people in their lives, particularily the ones that annoy them... it's our relationships that bring out the best and worst in us, and tapping into those emotions is a path to healing.  Sometimes I think my penance for talking so much is listening, and I love it.  Some people are really afraid to share their thoughts/feelings and that's when writing becomes the key.  Better out than in.

Perhaps I should have saved this for my L post during the A-Z challenge, but it isn't a word in the 'magic spirit card' deck I'm using and there are so many other L words on my list like Love, Laughter and Linger.

Let it Go

Let it go,
Let it out,
Let it all unravel,
Let it free
And it will be
A path on which to travel.

One of my favourite Leunig cartoons and poem.



  1. Hi Michelle. Your word play seems like it's going to be a lot of fun, I've subsribed and look forward to checking out your posts.

  2. I've found that I'm more comfortable talking when the people I'm with are those I get along with. In the past, I've tended to shut down and get quiet with people whom I have friction with.

    1. I think we probably have all felt that way sometimes. I believe most of the friction we create in our lives is more to do with ourselves than the other person. Having said that - I also believe when people create friction with me they have their own lessons to learn - about themselves. It really isn't worth beating myself up about. I leave them be, and if they don't get over themselves, I let them go. They can find someone else to cause friction with... I usually try to be a peace maker but honestly some people will never learn and aren't worth the energy - better off spending the time with people you are comfy with.... I have been surprised by the number of people that have reached out to me after several years when they were ready, eventually they forgave me and themselves. Some of them.


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